"Premarital sex de-incentivizes a young man to grow up, take responsibility, and lead his home and family."

I love this website. 🙂 It has some great things posted. Here is a recent blog. I realize this is very counter cultural to many of my readers. Feel free to challenge it and have a discussion. 

Jared C. Wilson The Gospel Coalition

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10 Things Young Singles in Romantic Relationships Ought to Know

1. It’s not bad to want to have sex with your significant other. It’d be another sort of worry if you didn’t. The key is to want to glorify Christ more than you want to have sex with each other.
2. The key to glorifying Christ more than you want to have sex with each other is that it is a decision to be made over and over again.
3. Persons in a dating or courting relationship are on their best behavior. So however they are now, you can expect, over time, for them to get “worse.” As familiarity grows, people let their guards down. Marriage does not fix bad behavior; it often gives it freer reign. Ladies, this means if your boyfriend is controlling, suspicious, verbally condescending or manipulative, he will get worse, not better the longer your relationship goes on. Whatever you are making excuses for or overlooking now, will get harder to ignore and more prominent the longer your relationship goes on. You can’t fix him, and marriage won’t straighten him out…..Read here

Yelling at Men by Mark Driscoll

I have met so many women who have been SO jarred in their view of God, of Christianity by men who called themselves Christians and who treated them like sh*t. There is no nicer way to put it. Many of those women would not call themselves Christians and yet their only representative of a “man of God” is someone who abused them, cheated on them, manipulated them, got them to sleep with him etc etc etc.

It is serious business.

If someone is taking the name of Christ and misrepresents him to others it is serious business. Sin is serious business. Your witness is serious business. Disobedience is serious business. The amount of women I have had to apologize to and say I am so sorry. That is not the gospel and he should not have treated you that way, done that, etc etc etc. This is what God is in the business of doing in men’s lives should they know him.

I am blessed to have some incredible men who love Jesus, repent and have been changed in my life as family members and friends. Men who love God, respect women, treat single women like sisters and honour their wives. I am glad I can see those men because there are so many hypocrites, liars, and fakers out there. It reminds me that God is good. People are bad. And Jesus is in the business of changing bad people.

*** If you are a man reading this and not a Christian.. you might agree with his rant at abusers but feel angry or confused about the no sex outside of marriage. You don’t have those convictions because you don’t know Jesus. This is specifically targeting men in the church who are disobeying, manipulating, abusing and hiding under the guise of Christian. If you are not a Christian.. don’t feel unforgivable.. repent and follow Jesus. You too can be a real, changed, cleansed Holy Spirit directed Christian. But consider the bulk of this rant at churched men.***

Not so often 4th

The last time I remember really celebrating a 4th of July I was with a group of about 30 new friends who had all been doing some cross cultural training with me for a summer and we had all lived abroad for awhile and weren’t coming back for ages. 

We sang lots of patriotic songs very loudly as Fireworks shot over our head. I didn’t realize there were so many patriotic songs out there. I have not been so embarrassingly American since then. It was great. 

It was 2006.

Now I do make it back a good amount. I am grateful for modern technology and the ability to travel back. People with my job 150 years ago would pack their belongings in a coffin never to return home alive. I have so many heros. 

But now I do fly back and forth and can but I miss so many important things. Most birthdays from the last decade. Including both my nephew’s births and 1st birthdays. 

So this sabbatical has been such a blessing in its timing and length. I got to be here for my birthday, my brothers, my dad’s 60th birthday yesterday and his retirement last week. 

Today was our Independence day. It was okay that we decided to overshadow our national holiday with celebrate Daddy day. No one even remembered sparklers. It was just so great to have quality time. 

My love language is definitely touch and words of affirmation but I think quality time is high on the list as well! Can I be greedy and have three out of the five? 🙂 

So this not so often Fourth when Americans are celebrating independence and liberty and all the things that we all have to be grateful for in our grand country, I am grateful for my family both immediate and extended and time with them and the sovereignty of the Lord’s timing in giving me this particular time with them! 

A Word For Those Who Have Forsaken Jesus

How eager Jesus was to restore broken fellowship with his apostles after the resurrection! Surely this is a sign of how eager he is to restore us when we have drifted (or bolted) away.
All the apostles had forsaken him. In the garden, at his most sorrowful hour, “They all left him and fled” (Mark 14:50).
Now he was raised. What would he say to those who had abandoned him? Three healing things:
  1. To Mary at the tomb: “Go to my brothers and say to them, ‘I am ascending to my Father and your Father, to my God and your God.’” (John 20:17)
    “Brothers!” “Your Father!” “Your God!” I am going now. You will come later. We are, and we will be, together. I forgive you. Our Father forgives you. 
  2. He finds the apostles, stands among them, and says, “Peace be with you.” He showed them his hands and his side — horrible reminders of what it cost him when they forsook him. And he says again. “Peace be with you.” (John 20:19–21)
    “Peace!” Not “Shame!” I forgive you. I take you back. I entrust you with my mission: “As the Father has sent me, even so I am sending you.” (John 20:21)
  3. To Peter, three times: “Simon, son of John, do you love me more than these?” “Simon, son of John, do you love me?” “Simon, son of John, do you love me?” And to his three positive answers, Jesus said, “Feed my lambs.” “Tend my sheep.” “Feed my sheep.” (John 21:15–17)
    I have not given up on you, Peter. You are a shepherd of my sheep. Do you recall that I prayed for you? I told you what was coming. I never let you go. My command was a promise: “When you have turned again, strengthen your brothers.” (Luke 22:32)
Jesus was eager to repair the damage that had been done. Eager to forgive, restore, recommission. If you have forsaken him, let him down, offended him, take heart, he is not less eager to repair things with you. Seek his face. Ask him. Receive his grace.